ANTIDOTES TO BOREDOM
by Phil Streeter
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For the fly fisher, this early Punch magazine cartoon humorously presents us with a sizzling range of human emotions that we all share. Frustration, boredom runaway anger; you name it, we all experience it.
We have all been inflicted with boredom. A tediousness that stops you getting up in the morning. A "wading through a sea of glue," bemoaned the depressed Tennyson. Some people ride it out, others devise means of softening its impact, and everyone would be glad to be without it.
The writer Graham Greene confessed to obsessive cravings for excitement. Feverishly living on the edge, he quickly became bored. Passing a dentist one day feeling desperately lethargic, he suddenly decided to while away the time by having a tooth extracted. Reclined in the dental chair, Greene warbled a fictitious story about an abscess under his tooth. "It must be extracted," growled the dentist. Greene agreed on condition that he was knocked out for an hour by ether inhalation. Later, he described the experience as a "holiday from the world." To him, a spell of adventure, a welcome antidote to ordinariness.
Jean Paul Sartre in his reminiscences, recalls an Italian by the name of Giacometti, an unenviable man constantly griping about his boring existence. "I was born for nothing," he groaned. One day while crossing a busy street, Giocometti was run over by a car. Prostrate on the road, he confessed to a strange sense of elation. "At last something has happened to me," he murmured with a smile.
Aware that life's realities never equal one's ideal picture of them, D. H. Lawrence of Lady Chatterley fame, grizzled, "How I loathe ordinariness."
I must quote the person of Jesus from the New Testament but before doing so, I have to express my extreme irritation that this man has been kidnapped by established religion. No, I'm not preaching! My own strand of spirituality is simply sensing an Eternal Presence in everything and everyone, not in appointed buildings. This makes me a naughty, disobedient heretic, but I can't help it.! Originally, Jesus had nothing to do with Church or institutional religion. People have made him religious and for this reason he needs rescuing from it. He was an inspiring person just like Buddha, Mohammed, Mother Theresa and a galaxy of others that you could quote and maybe have even met.
Undoubtedly inspired, Jesus casually introduced a string of wonderful ideas that really could change the world. Sentiments like kindness, compassion, peace, tolerance and forgiveness, that have nothing to with religious buildings. But back to my main point. Being a human being like us, he too would have experienced boredom - that flat similarity of identical days. Sawing the same wood, nailing the same planks and up to his ankles in the debris of the obvious. However, he never resigned himself to a dull existence in order to rid himself of monotonous feelings. It's more than likely he practised alternative approaches to understanding the human problem of boredom. After all, dullness, sameness and repetition are essential parts of life. Only through tediousness could he apply that which he believed into something everyone could practise. "To be happy," said novelist Joanna Trollope, "you have to learn to value LITTLE THINGS."
In spasms of boredom, rather than feeling sorry for himself, Jesus diverted his attention to INCIDENTALS - to SMALL THINGS. They had value and were a launch pad to ease his sense of boredom; to diminish his spasm of staleness. Small, random events like sparrows arguing on rooftops, corn stalks in a field, flasks of wine, his mum baking bread, a pocketed coin, a lost sheep, a poor person in the crowd - a hundred everyday sights that regular people like us take for granted. In fact anything to escape that humdrum flatness. "Look at the lilies," he suggested. Is that all? Where's the trembling profundity? Maybe lilies like every other flower, when admired, become antidotes to boredom. They're certainly worth a glance when you're feeling morbidly mundane. "Go sit among the rocks," said nature writer Richard Jefferies, "or in the depths of the wood, and think of immortality, and all that word really means, and by-and-by a mysterious awe will creep into the mind, and it will half believe in the possibility of seeing or meeting something - SOMETHING - it knows not exactly what." If every moment is a messenger and every object contains a message as I believe they do, then the suggestion is that in miserable moods, it's worth mustering the energy to look around for distractions.
By accepting ordinary events rather than combating them, we permit them to mould our inside life instead of us becoming their prisoner. When we feel dull and listless, when no fly seems to work (!) be assured that life's smallest incidents bristle with significance. Frequently, we cannot perceive this because we do not notice. The wood can't be seen for the trees.
Boredom can be toyed and experimented with by extending our gaze towards the repetitious and commonplace. Previously unnoticed normality takes on new shapes when time is taken to LOOK, SEE and FEEL, not necessarily to understand. Trivial incidents are excellent instructors, the mundane can become marvellous, for that which is commonplace is always genuine. In that infirm person creeping along the street, two teenagers moodily romantic at a bus stop, the welcome of warm smiles, the friendly offer of "Try this fly," the innocent stare of a child in advance of its ability to express itself, a carpet of bluebells in a wood, a sheet of calm water silvered by moonlight, a loan tree leaning on the horizon, the sound of the first cuckoo. Ordinary sights like the deep gaze of an old dog, that helpful assistant in Tesco, a mother gazing into her pram and so on. Suddenly, the ordinary becomes transcendent! Or at least nudges us into realising that hundreds are worse off than us.
Behind all visible things looms a vastness; a window opening on everyday realities more majestic than they first appear to be. We must never reject sentiments when they are aroused. Welcome them. Feel them. They are individual expressions of our unique temperament. "O gentle reader, you could find a tale in everything," advised William Wordsworth.
The wise person welcomes ordinariness and monotony, boredom and irksomeness. When permitted, they can become experiments, entertainment, personal theatrical performances and education rolled into one. Repetitive things we look at when we least feel like it act like fairy wands that transforms things! Incidentals become as realistic as that first kiss and caress. Stale, ordinary occurrences can grasp a person. They prompt us to listen, and then become a key by which we understand meanings in the drabness we are of scraping through.
Everything emotionally wooden and tediously monotonous are present in order to take on other meanings. Bliss, satisfaction, and a surprising awareness can occur when we are seeking to find reasons for our flattened feelings. Be sure they are not opposites. Both are integral parts of an emotional journey that we need to pay attention to. They are the substance about which Bilbo Baggins sang about in Lord of the Rings...
The road goes ever on and on
Down from the door where it began.
Now far ahead the road has gone,
And I must follow it if I can,
Pursuing it with weary feet,
Until it joins some larger way,
Where many paths and errands meet,
And wither then?
I cannot say.
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So, first boredom, afterwards curiosity followed by fascination, then the pleasure of understanding. When welcoming our incidentals simply for what they are, realisations to difficult to analyse can easily gather and grow inside of us. So, at least have a try! Take a look! Remember that diseases are not healed by repeating the word "medicine" but by taking it. Then, quite mischievously, boredom could become the midwife for the birth of an unexpected self-discovery.
I conclude, optimistically wishing you the dullest, boring day of your life!
Phil Streeter